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A sexless marriage can be challenging and frustrating. While the exact definition varies, generally a sexless marriage is one in which a couple has sex less than 10 times per year. This situation is more common than many realize, with some estimates that around 15–20% of married couples are in a sexless relationship.
If you find yourself in a marriage that has become sexless, know that you’re not alone. Here are 15 tips that may help you cope, spark intimacy, and navigate this difficult scenario:
1. Communicate Openly and Honestly
The first step is to talk openly with your spouse about the lack of physical intimacy. Do so in a calm, non-confrontational way. Listen to understand their perspective without judgement. Discuss your needs and concerns compassionately. Unpack any underlying issues or relationship challenges that could be contributing. Communication and honesty provides a foundation for working together.
2. Set Aside Quality Time Together
Schedule regular date nights or quality time together without distractions. Devote your full attention to connecting emotionally. Build intimacy through conversation, sharing activities you both enjoy, revisiting fond memories, practicing small acts of kindness, and showing…
