10 Things I Do Each Day to Build an Unbreakable Bond With My Children

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5 min readMay 31, 2022
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You want to deepen your relationship with your children, but it’s hard juggling all the demands on your time and energy. Your schedule is already jam-packed with work, household chores, and taking care of the kids. And then there are after-school activities, lessons, and sports practices to coordinate for each child.

It can feel like there’s no time left for you or for them. But these 10 habits will give you a daily way to connect more deeply with their lives to be there in all the little ways that matter so much when they’re little but are too often neglected as they grow older.

1. Look at your child’s eyes.

No matter how old your kids are, it’s always possible to build a deeper connection with them. The first step is to connect in the moment to be fully present and aware of each other and what’s going on in each other’s hearts and minds. That means not just looking at, but actually seeing their faces for all the expressions they convey. It means looking into their eyes, where you can see their soul and spirit shining through.

2. Find one new way every day to express love for them (even if it’s a small gesture).

Love is not complicated; it’s a feeling. And it can be expressed any time, anywhere as long as you don’t put obstacles in the way. It doesn’t have to be fancy or elaborate; it’s simply connecting to your children with all your being and love, no matter what they’re doing, who they’re with, or how tired you might be.

3. Receive their love by asking them what they need from you (and from the world) and giving them what they ask for (and give others).

This is one of the most important ways you can connect with your kids. To really know them, you must be willing to give them what they want and need and expect the same in return. This is how you build trust, claim your place in their lives and fulfill your true purpose as a parent.

4. Play close attention to the feeling of your child’s presence in order to know when…

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